This blog post should really be called “How not
to overcome adversity”! Did you ever
know someone who was intelligent and quick thinking; someone who seemed to have
everything in the world going for them, but because of their temper and
stubbornness, threw it all down the drain?
Take a gander at a list of famous hotheads in history, and you’ll see
quite a few familiar characters. You
have to wonder about the thought processes of someone who would give it all up
because of their petulant personality.
Two examples of such dimwitted behavior were Aaron Burr and Alexander
Hamilton.
Aaron Burr was born into relative comfort in
1756. His father was Aaron Sr., the
second president of Princeton University, and Aaron Jr. graduated from the
University at the tender age of 16. He
went on to study theology, but eventually changed to law.
In 1776, when the Revolutionary War came
calling, Aaron left school to join the fight for independence. He saw action in many battles, and spent that
infamous winter at Valley Forge. However, he and General Washington did not
always see eye to eye. He wound up
having to leave the military in 1779 due to poor health, and went on to become
a successful attorney in New York; for a while sharing a practice with his
soon- to- be nemesis, Alexander Hamilton.
Eventually, he went into the political arena,
but was never really successful. He was
often known to change opinions or political parties when it best suited his
purposes. This did not please the likes
of George Washington, Alexander Hamilton, or Thomas Jefferson. The Presidential election of 1800 brought all
of this dirty laundry out into the open.
When Burr and Jefferson were tied in the Electoral College after 35
ballots, Alexander Hamilton finally persuaded Federalists to support Jefferson
because, as he said, “At least we know where he stands”. Coming in second to Jefferson, Burr went on
to become Vice President, but was never trusted by his commander-in-chief,
Thomas Jefferson.
Knowing the
Republican Party would never support him in Jefferson’s reelection, Aaron began
secretly negotiating with the Federalists to become the governor of New York in
1804. Alexander Hamilton found out his
plan, and threw his support behind Burr’s opponent, Morgan Lewis, ensuring a
landslide victory for Lewis.
Born under very different circumstances,
Alexander Hamilton was born out of wed lock to a French Woman and a Scottish
drunkard in 1757. He was, as John Adams
so delicately put it, “A true bastard”.
Despite these meager beginnings, Hamilton became a real life rags to
riches “American Dream” story. After
coming to America, he was educated, and fought alongside George Washington in
the Revolutionary War. He became
Washington’s aide de camp, his most trusted advisor, during not only the
Revolutionary War, but the Constitutional Convention.
He also became instrumental in the first presidential cabinet. His strong Federalist opinions, which he never kept to himself, were for a strong centralized government. He felt there was a real need to unite the nation, and lower its debt. Unfortunately, many of his policies were stopped cold in their tracks, courtesy of none other than Aaron Burr.
Due to his
questionable beginnings; Hamilton felt the need to overcompensate, to always
prove he was the better man. His
reputation for being honest and forthright meant more to him than anything
else. If Alexander Hamilton felt you
weren’t being true to the red white and blue, he was the first to call you out
on it!
Every time Burr changed either his political
party, or was caught secretly negotiating deals, it increased Hamilton’s
disdain and distrust of Burr. He thought
Burr was a threat and capable of destroying the young republic.
In any
election, Hamilton opposed Burr. Even
when Burr was running against other well known foes of Hamilton’s as in the
Election of 1800 when Burr ran against Thomas Jefferson for President.
Everything came to a head when Aaron Burr
campaigned to win the New York Governor’s election in 1804. During the campaign, a letter was written in
the Albany Register. The author, Dr. Charles Cooper recalled an
episode the previous February when Hamilton questioned Burr’s qualifications to
become governor. Whatever it was that
Hamilton said about Burr was not specified in the letter. However, the letter ended with Cooper
stating, “I could detail to you a still more despicable opinion which General
Hamilton has expressed about Mr. Burr”.
Burr felt the word “despicable” was slanderous and libel. He demanded an apology from Hamilton, even
though Hamilton was never actually quoted in the article. What followed were several correspondences
between Burr, Hamilton, and their representatives. Burr insisted on an apology, Hamilton denied
he had anything to apologize for-- he was never actually quoted in the article!
Every
successive letter caused each man to dig in his heels and become more and more
stubborn. Neither one would back
down. The situation escalated until
finally, Burr challenged Hamilton to an “interview” to defend his honor. Interview was another word for duel. Why the coded verbiage? Dueling was against the law! Believe it or not, at that time, there was an
entire series of terms and actions drawn up, so that anyone who was party to a
duel could escape prosecution on technicalities. These technicalities included no one at the
scene, doctors or even people who had given the hotheads a ride to the fight,
could even look at the duelers as the shots were being fired. They had to turn
away and look in the other direction. Only the “seconds” were allowed to
actually be in the vicinity. Why? So anyone else involved, other than the chief
participants, could honestly say they never saw a shot fired. Society had devised a series of “gentlemanly”
loopholes!
Most “interviews” were resolved before they
ever took place. Those that did take
place usually ended with the participants receiving non- serious or flesh
wounds due to the inaccuracy of the weaponry, or as was the practice, the
choice to fire away from your opponent.
Firing away from your opponent worked because you could technically say
you fired your weapon. Your honor was
saved, and no one got hurt.
On July 4,
1804, both Burr and Hamilton attended the Order of the Cincinnati. This was a private club for officers of the
Revolutionary War. During their July 4th celebrations, Burr and
Hamilton were actually seated next to each other. Burr was uncharacteristically quiet, and
Hamilton had a great time. He even went
so far as to sing military songs! No
one could guess what was to come. While
no one had any idea what Burr was planning for the “interview”, Hamilton made
it quite clear he had no intention of firing to hit Burr. He planned on following the “gentleman’s
code” for dueling. However, this was not
to be. On July 11, 1804, on a bluff
overlooking Weehawken, New Jersey, two heroes of the American Revolution, and
political adversaries, met for an “interview”.
One intended, as he had written in letters written before the meeting,
to discharge his round into the air. The
other, however, chose to take steady aim when he, according to the rules, was
allowed a free shot. In an instant, Burr
took aim and mortally wounded Hamilton just above the hipbone. Some thought that this proved that Burr’s
intent was to inflict a “flesh wound”.
Whatever
Burr’s intent, rumors and lies began to surround the duel almost as soon as the
shots were fired. This is interesting,
especially when everyone involved was supposedly either not there, or looking
away, as it is stated in the “rules of conduct” for such activities.
The end result
was that one of the authors of the Federalist Papers was hours from death. A man despised by many for his strong
opinions would become a martyr for liberty.
Aaron Burr, the Vice President of the United States would be accused by
many as the new “Benedict Arnold”.
Because of this, he would flee to South Carolina, only to eventually
return to finish his term as vice president and fulfill the prophecy by
attempting treasonous acts with Great Britain and France that were to
eventually end his career.
These two
political hotheads couldn’t find it within themselves to put aside petty
differences for the good of their county.
They let one word – despicable – ruin two promising careers.
☺ Many times, we may feel the need to
rip into an adversary. Heaven knows
sometimes they deserve it! Telling
someone to count to ten is not always the best solution. You need to take some time to really think
about what upsets you about this person.
Anger and jealously can eat you alive as well as acid. It’s just NOT worth it! It can stifle
creativity, cloud your thinking, and let’s face it, make you do and say some
really stupid things. So before you
challenge that adversary to the proverbial “interview”, ask yourself if it’s
really worth it. Will this back you into
a corner and leave you no alternative but to fire? Keep in mind what happened to Hamilton and
Burr, and remember you have no “second”.
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